Each of us bears with in us an inner compass, a sort of spiritual dowsing wand. When our actions match our values, this compass points true north. This week you are asked to focus on personal grounding. As you plan and execute ritual that both sooth and enliven you, your compass will become more steady. Reaching out to others is another means by which we gauge our own position. As we extend ourselves in empathy towards our friends, we experience ourselves as generous and compassionate.
As artists, when we encounter change, we often react as the dogs do… (A bit aggressive or protective of the unknown) No matter that the change is “for our own good” change is still change and it is hard for us.
Julia share about her experience with new partnership or new environments such as her dogs experienced. And having cool feet or questioning the new partner and our own ability to size them up. Might she be sharing about the loss of control that when she was in a situation without a partner there was a sense of safety? Didn’t have to worry about getting hurt or miss trusting. And now venturing into a new endeavors she is sharing the sense that it’s all going to fall apart, when in fact it’s coming together and it’s falling in the right direction…This feeling of out of control when things are going right is scary too. Are things moving too fast?
No matter that the change we are undergoing is a change for the positive.
Divining Rod-When we are fatigued or over stressed from too much change we frequently view the world as a hostile place. We brace ourselves for the shock of impending doom. We grid ourselves against the worst. But what if the best is about to happen? What if despite our fears, we are being handed a resounding success? Are we ready to face that eventuality as well?
Change for the better is still change, and so we need to ready ourselves for the good that comes our way as well as the bad. Take pen to page. List five rituals that are sensory and can move you to a sense of safety and expansion. Ex: burn a stick of incense, light a candle, buy fresh flowers. When stressed, you need to woo yourself a little. Ex: Nice dinner out, a change of fresh sheets, good bath salts. The psyche speaks in symbols. Tell yourself symbolically that you will be fine.
The Eyes Have it
As artists, we run a risk of staleness if we close ourselves off to fresh experiences. Each day must remain an exploratory expedition. We must remain tourist on our home terrain. We must hold on to a sense of adventure. To do this we must keep our curiosity alive and gently feed it. Walking the world moves towards us at a manageable rate.
How are some of your daily friendly encounters with human beings going for you?
How do we connect? First off it’s not by comparing, or pulling judgment that would disconnect us.
Remember seeing is believing find an image that speaks to you of your life and one that you believe will speak to others. In reaching out to others, we remind ourselves that we too are beloved and missed…
Divining Rod Sometimes we need credit for a job well done, even if there is no one at hand to offer us their praise. We must lean to praise ourselves, to take pride in our abilities to keep on keeping on. Pen in hand, List five things that which you have preserved.
Fear of Success
If you’ve come this far with the all the books of the Artist Way, at least two before and not this one you know we are repeating some topic again, as of the fear of success.
We are used to soldiering on. We are accustomed to doing our work against the odds and against the tide. When the tide turns, when the odds are suddenly in our favor, we need to find our sea legs. It finally has happened it is our turn to bat.
In making transition from bystander to player, it helps if we take with us some of our daily routines. Morning pages, walks, artists dates etc. helps us stay ground.
On the days when we are just soldiering on, it seems impossible that any project could come to fruition too fast. Haven’t we already been waiting “forever”? But breaks when they come seem to come just as we can barely handle them.
Now that the light is green, the terrain seems threatening. Stick with what’s been working I say. Keep up the Morning pages, the walking and especially the artist date.
There is nothing like success to bring on a misery-inducing bout of self-centered fears. Julia share at this point she tries to move from her head to her heart. By reaching out she would call a friend that might be in a tighter situation and be a good listener to them. This was a way for her also to get a dose of regular life that there are still going to be life and we have to learn how to life it. And the best reminder is we are all in this together.
On to week 9-Uncovering a Sense of Perspective.